when do you feel fear associated with your body?

[Elizabeth]

i'm kind of interested to know what other women fear when it comes to their bodies. i know this site should be focused on loving your body as it is. but overcoming hate starts with discussing your feelings toward your body, right?
i have a fear of trying on sexy lingerie.... seriously, i don't know what to expect as a reaction from my hubby. but in my mind he would take one look at me and run screaming in the opposite direction. if we are watching a show, such as "friends," he'll ask why i don't wear stuff like that. i'll say because i don't look like that. it deters me from even trying it because you only see a certain body type in lingerie. i wouldn't even know what a real body would look like in it! so in my head, i punish myself for not looking a certain way and feel i don't deserve to try lingerie because i havn't kept myself looking like i did when i was 19. i know it's wrong and cruel to myself, but that's what i feel. and i'm sure real guys probably don't care that don't look like a victoria's secret model.... but i just can't wrap myself around the idea that wouldn't look horrifying.
does anyone else feel this way? and what are other situations where you actually feel fear?

[Jazz and Orange]

The crazy thing is that I'm in the 6th grade and I just studied things like this in Chinese beliefs such as Buddhism. Instead of going to extremes by putting yourself into self-denial, try and go through the middle way. Also, don't over-eggagerate over how "ugly" you are. You're beautiful, but hiding it under nothing but bones is only going to leave you miserable.
Hope this helps!

[Angela]

I think I feel fear way too often...I have so much trouble wearing any sort of 'feminine' clothing. I never feel comfortable unless I am wearing baggy pants and a baggy shirt. It really annoys my husband because he thinks (or so he says) that I look good in clothes that 'actually fit.' It's just so hard for me because I don't think I look good in them at all....especially since I got out of the hospital. All the clothes that were once baggy are now not, so my limits on clothes is very limited now. I pretty much have 2 or 3 outfits that I'll wear. I guess the fear I have is that when going out in clothes that are even remotely form fitting, is that people will think that I'm too big to be wearing them or will be comparing me to someone else that's out there..
So to answer your questions, yes I do feel that way and for the second question, well I think I answered that above :-)

[cate emsley]

For me, it happens when I go to clothes shop. My build is not "usual" (I have extremely large breasts, bu I am not overweight)- contrary to some women who love them, I have always had disgusting calls from men when walking down the street, and I try to wear clothes that hide them. I despise going bra shopping, because I usually hear, "oh sorry, we don't have anything in your size", or "what a shame you aren't plus size, then we could find you cup and back size". It is not only that, but I had an eating disorder for years, and got down to a Ccup. I guess at the end though, I should just be grateful my body works- hey, the grass is always greener ladies, lol^_^